Self-care : The biggest secret

[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px”][vc_column_text]A new series on Netflix which shows the applied knowledge of Marie Kondo on clearing our living spaces is yet one more acknowledgement that our lives have become cluttered.  From smartphones to social media, to detox diets and beyond, many of us are drowning in a deluge of products and trends that compete for our attention.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px”][vc_column_text]It seems that we are under constant pressure to improve ourselves, our lives and the way we live through yet more and more wellness products. I recently read in an article in the NY Times about procrastination, “It’s almost like you have this moral imperative — if you’re not trying to improve, you’re failing at some level.”

So, how can we cut out the noise and instead, sink that one step deeper into our own innate wisdom, a step that will bring deep healing rather than simply racing to keep up with each and every new ‘wellness’ trend?

By taking care of ourselves and cultivating a healthier mind and body, we are better able to enjoy life more fully. Our relationships with others also benefit, we become clearer about the things that we love and our own personal ‘calling’ (dharma) is revealed.

Let me be clear: spirituality and wellness are not the same things. The promises described above can only result from following a spiritual path. Although tempting, a wellness path means to remove only the stalk from the root of the malaise. It can only provide some temporary relief.

Most of us are familiar with various ‘wellness’ treatments on the market, eg Ayurvedic massage, a gym-based yoga membership or perhaps an Ayurvedic bath with more chemicals than can be digested. Too often, these simply serve to alleviate the symptoms in the short-term but don’t provide any real substantial healing.

It is true that we all have to start somewhere. And certainly, those free yoga classes, easy gym memberships and other wellness products can be a first step in the right direction. At the same time, it is important to be wary of the whole marketing-led wellness industry. For more inspiration on this, see Dana G’s latest article ‘The self-care paradox‘. True healing asks us to cut out the noise for real.

My teacher would often say, ‘We tend to overrate the mind and intellect. While they have a place in our lives we give them far more credit then they deserve.’ In my own teaching, I often advise students to beware the monkey mind.

After more than 2 decades of practising Hatha yoga, I can confirm that it is a path that teaches one gently to turn inwards, with no short cuts or self-deception. It curtails over-dependence on the everyday mind and intellect by asking that we open to the wisdom of the body and all its layers /shadows.

What do I mean when I speak of those layers/shadows?

In both Yoga and Ayurveda, a person is viewed as having different layers through which we act.

There are five of these layers:

  • the physical body,
  • the energetic body,
  • the mental body (lower mind),
  • the intellectual/ intuitive body (higher mind)
  • and the bliss body.

In Sanskrit, these are known as the Annamaya Kosha, Pranamaya Kosha, Manomaya Kosha, Vijnanamaya kosha and Anandamaya Kosha.

In the modern world, we have achieved much through psychology by becoming more willing to listen to the body and to the emotions.  However, this approach only just scratches the surface.

To access our intuition (Vijnanamaya Kosha), it is essential that we develop self-trust and -love and a way of quietening the mind so that we can hear the inner voice.

It is only when those five layers are balanced and can communicate with each other that our inner wisdom can be revealed. The answers that then come from deep within mean that we no longer feel the need to chase after the latest new wellness fad. This is true healing (to be ‘made whole’).

 

What practical steps can we take to embark on our path into wisdom?

 

  1. Spend time each day noticing what the eyes are seeing, the hands are feeling, the skin is touching. Our senses connect us to the world. To spend even a few moments each day being clear of what we are tasting, touching, hearing and smelling is a way of noticing how we perceive the world.
  2. When making a decision, step back for a moment out of the rational mind and take time to slow down, breathe or even better, practise some yoga and then ask yourself what solution is needed to move forward with ease.
  3. Notice the effects on relationships with other people after your practice – what kind of answers or actions are coming up.
  4. Be clear about where you want to go and establish a goal.

 

If you want to deepen and connect your sense of intuition, you can get a taste when immersing yourself in a retreat. Maybe you even feel like coming to Greece with me.

Have a look to find more about The Greek Escape Yoga Retreat and make yourself a gift.

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Understanding Yourself Through the Eyes of Ayurveda – A Short Take on the Principles of Kapha Dosha

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As we turn this week to look at Kapha, the third dosha, it is important to remember that we are looking at the doshas from an energetic perspective in order to get a more direct understanding of each of them.

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The doshas constitute the separation of the one great energy which divides itself between subtle and gross. The break up of this one great energy into different parts is there to facilitate evolution. We have sky energy and we have earth energy. Between above and below a lot of action/transformation and communication happens.

Vata is light like the air, while Pitta is the energy of clear changes — eg. when you see someone transforming from being overweight to becoming slim, this is due to the ‘changing agent’ of pitta dosha.

Kapha constitutes the energy of earth and water.

‘Ka’ means ‘water’ and ‘Pha’ is often translated as ‘to nourish’.

When you mix water and earth, the result is a mushiness or clay consistency. When you squeeze your flesh you can feel this combination quite clearly. We are not hard and solid as we often perceive, but we are a good mixture of the softer component of water substantiated by the earth.

Kapha is therefore known for its healing or even better repair capacity. It does this by bringing cohesion and fluidity to the body.

Kapha, in short is the energy of cohesion, of repair, of nourishment.

How do we experience this energy directly, ourselves?

Think about how refreshed you feel when you have slept for 8 hours or more and you wake up feeling good, full of energy and well nourished just from lying down and being in full body contact with the earth.

These days, in our modern world, many people no longer experience that nourishment. Over the past 100 years, our average number of sleep hours has dropped by two. We have more people suffering from sleeping disorderslike insomnia and interrupted using sleep aids like sleeping pills. This has had a major impact on the body’s ability to repair and heal itself. You might also have noticed that immune issues (like allergies or inflammation) or auto-immune diseases are on the rise.

Why are our immune systems falling apart?

In the eyes of Ayurveda, this is closely connected with the increasing sleep deprivation and poorer quality sleep. Kapha can no longer do its work effectively. This is partly due to the fact that the body is no longer able to stabilise its system through kapha.

Here are some suggestions for building kapha to enable deep healing from within:

* Make sure to get enough sleep between 10 pm and 7 am by clearing up your sleeping environment and using calming scents like lavender or rose in the bedroom.

* Wear a sleeping mask to block out light and avoid blue light for at least 2 hours before going to bed.

* Wind down before bedtime with soothing and relaxing activities such as gazing at beautiful art, finding inspiration from sundowns and generally, becoming more aware of the sweetness of life. Avoid watching the news in the evening or engaging with mood-disturbing things such as work emails etc.

If you would like to understand more about your dosha type or solutions to your health issues, you are more than welcome to join me for a Free Ayurvedic consultation.

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Understanding Yourself Through the Eyes of Ayurveda – A Short Take on the Principles of pitta

[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px”][vc_column_text]Today I want to delve into an exploration of the Pitta dosha.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px”][vc_column_text]But first, let me be clear that despite the separation of the 5 elements (water, fire, air, ether, earth) into dosha, we need to understand that none can exist without the others. As mentioned in my previous article, there are 3 doshas and they act as a trilogy:  Vata  Pitta and Kapha. It is only by understanding the interrelationship between this trilogy that the picture is complete.

A very easy way to relate to Pitta on a personal level is as follows:

Do you remember when you last felt hungry? What did it feel like? (And I am talking about the kind of hunger that is real!)

Did you feel a sharp pain in your stomach? A gnarling hunger that made you even ‘hangry’?

That is the energy of fire in your body, that transforms food into body tissue. Or in modern terminology, metabolism.

In Ayurveda  PITTA means – the subtle energy of transformation.

It includes not only metabolism but also assimilation and absorption.

The second component of Pitta is Water.

Water helps to contain the fire and being its best companion.

Where do we see the water in the body? If we look into someone’s eyes, we can see the spark in the centre of the eye – the radiance (which is connected to fire), but around the eyeball, we notice the ‘water content’.

Pitta imbalances most frequently show up as fire being in excess, ie inflammations,  stomach ulcers or dry eyes, itchy skin.

Another way of observing the shift in dominance of one dosha over the others is by looking at changes in season.

At the onset of Spring, two things happen. First, we experience an increase of movement (you can see, for example, the transformation in plants and trees) and secondly, we feel the shift from cold to warmth.

Once the weather changes we feel drawn to different foods than the ones we prefer in winter. You might wonder what to eat in Spring at the moment. If you follow your instincts, you might find that you are attracted to the juiciness of the fruits as these can help to keep Pitta in balance and add some of the water that is needed from being too much in the fire (sun/heat) element.

A Short Take on the Principles of pitta

Ayurvedic Tips for Pitta balance

Make the best of tending to your fire by following these few simple steps to keep the fire in check:

  • only work out in the cool hours of the day
  • add moisture when you feel your skin is drying or burnt
  • do not push your meals into the evening but feed the fire while it’s hot (lunch instead of dinner) and avoid feelings of irritability or anger
  • mellow down by cooling down in the evening and reducing your screen time
  • for the once that are outdoor types, take time to look at the moon and bath in it!

Let the beauty of transformation shine through but not overwhelm you and tune in for more Ayurvedic tips at the end of the week on myy Yoga and Ayurveda with Alexandra channel and my Yoga and Ayurveda with Alexandra Fcebook page.

Make it a healthy day

Yours truly

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You think your instincts are working but is your intuition?

[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px”][vc_column_text]Personally, I’ve often struggled to discern between my instincts and my intuition until a year ago (see my story of Self-Love).[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px”][vc_column_text]In the dark days of winter, my asana practice would suffer, my eating and sleeping habits wobble, and I begin questioning myself: Is sleeping in to skip my pre-dawn sadhana (aka yoga practice, chanting or anything you do to align yourself with the day) an intuitive moment of self-care, or an instinctive aversion to the traditions that would unhook me from the bonds to find I can awaken?

“Only you know for sure,” my mentors would say.

Frustratingly accurate since, ultimately, we are each our own best teacher. How did this help me when my alarm shrieked into the cold darkness of 5:30 am?

Truth be told it does not help if I tackle this from my mind. I had to cultivate so much more…

Instinct vs. intuition

But first things first – let me explain the difference between instinct and intuition:

Unlike instinct, intuition has no future and no past. It lives entirely in this very instant. It’s plugged into the vast network of the universe and is known by the name of vijnanmayaskosha (also translated as innate wisdom).

This is a term from Ayurveda, where our being is explained through the layers of five sheets.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px”][vc_single_image image=”3073″ img_size=”” alignment=”center” style=”vc_box_rounded”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px”][vc_column_text]And because we are talking about wisdom here, I would call it a genuinely trustworthy brick for laying the path for self-healing that leads to dharma. Listening to the voice of our intuition is coming home to a place we never left.

That sounds pretty awesome, doesn’t it? It’s what we know as Socrates famous; Know thyself!

The trouble is, a lack of discernment between instinct and intuition inevitably creates confusion in interpreting the messages that each carries. It is easy to get into the habit of compulsively searching, seeking and rushing from one thing to the next, to keep ourselves distracted from uncomfortable feelings.  Self-awareness is indeed the bedrock upon which discernment is built.

How do we create self-awareness that is true and not filtered through constant desires?

The answer to it lies in the other layers.

When our body works like it should (in rhythm with the circadian cycles), showing us that we can have radiant health, when we can breathe in line with our emotions, because we are not suppressing them and giving prana the space it needs to circulate, When our mind and intellect is clear and less fogged or struggling to bring 1 and 1 together, then our intuition can work and it shows through self-esteem.

This is why the Ayurveda comes up with the term dinarcharya – daily routines and workouts. And why Yoga is talking about Yamas and Niyamas – behaviours for mental health and observances for living in harmony with the world around us.

 

This is an awful lot to digest, I know.

But the light at the end of the tunnel is that you can find a way in. Only, if you believe in the magic of process, not instant remedies.

Because with trust into time and process, you will be able to notice that any atomic adjustment will get you on track with your healing powers that are lying in your inner wisdom.

Want to get help?

Join me on my Yogic RoadMap (Creating Space). Give yourself a year and you will be a person on track with your mental well being. With Self Awareness Skills that are doable. A person that makes choices because they are in line with your dharma. And where you can experience life as flowing.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]