Ulli Helmstetter – Just Like Me Meditation

In this episode of Outer Travel, Inner Journey, listen to Ulli and I give you a female and male voice for Ram Dass and Mirabai Bush’s Just Like Me meditation. This is part of our podcast series wherein we find ways to strengthen relationships and intimacy. In practicing this, we hope that we help you in your personal relationships as well.

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Just Like Me by Ram Dass and Mirabai Bush

 

This person has a body and a mind, just like me.

This person has feelings, emotions, and thoughts, just like me.

This person has experienced physical and emotional pain and suffering, just like me.

This person has at some time been sad, disappointed, angry, or hurt, just like me.

This person has felt unworthy or inadequate, just like me.

This person worries and is frightened sometimes, just like me.

This person will die, just like me.

Ulli and Daria – Understanding Life Through Learning Math and Physics

Math and Physics are two of science’s fundamental and most exciting branches. For centuries, scientists have used Math and Physics to answer some of the world’s most fascinating questions and help us understand the universe that we live in. But no matter how important it is in our daily lives, most students now shy away from these subjects and is disinterested in them. For this week’s Outer Travel, Inner Journey, we will talk with Ulli and Daria, two teachers of Math and Physics, as we dig deeper into the cause of students’ fear in these subjects and find ways to bring a positive light to it.

For Ulli and Daria, the low interest and fear of taking up Math and Physics stem from how it is taught in today’s educational system. These subjects are taught by teachers and educators that are not experts on the topics, making it hard to translate concepts into simple explanations. Since Physics and Math are complicated and complex, making them as basic as possible is crucial to allow students to grasp the concepts. It does not also help that the system is forcing teachers to take a shortcut in teaching these subjects with the view that not all are good at them; therefore, students won’t need it. This is a struggle that Daria deals with because she believes that students must understand the whole process to connect with the subject and apply it in the real world.

Both agreed that to capture the interest of their students and increase their appreciation of Math and Physics, teachers like them should engage their students based on their interests and relate them in a way that students can easily understand the concepts. For parents, it is also vital to continue being curious and open to learning themselves. This way, they can be students and models themselves for their children too.

Join us to learn more about being better teachers and students in learning about ourselves and the universe in this week’s episode!

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  • “Physics and Math are some of the most fundamental sciences that we have to understand the world. It explains the universe or tried to explain the universe, and how it works. But there’s a contrast that it has very low interest in school.” – Ulli Helmstetter
  • “It’s the fear, that they always, or so many of them, fail in Math or Physics. And this failure is maybe the biggest reason why also the joy is gone.” – Ulli Helmstetter
  • “The simpler an explanation is required, the more of an expert you need to introduce it.” – Daria
  • “Slowing down and always taking a look at the ability to estimate an answer and to take as many steps as are required in order to see the logical progression of the question as opposed to taking a shortcut.” – Daria
  • “The fun is in the understanding, and not so much in the use of the stuff.” – Ulli Helmstetter
  • “Know who you are, what is your key interest, and come back to what is your key interest in learning. We can inspire ourselves, and we can be inspirational to others. as teachers or as parents who find inspiration for their kids.” – Alexandra Kreis

Parenting Young Children For the Long Run – Alexandra Scherzer

If you are a new parent, have you ever wondered why no matter how much you take care of your baby, give them milk, sway them, sing a lullaby, sometimes it’s just not enough? Do you ever ask yourself if what you’re doing is correct? Do you ever question why parenting portrayed by the media is different from what you are experiencing? Don’t worry you are not alone.

In this week’s episode of Outer Travel, Inner Journey, Alexandra Scherzer, a parenting educator and counselor shares how becoming a mother pushed her to look within herself more, which made her a better parent to her child.

She starts with explaining that in babies and toddlers, behavior and emotions are what we see. It is important to understand what lies under their behavior, what influences it, what part of one’s parenting is going to affect their behavior, and what part of a child’s in-born genes is going to affect certain behaviors. These are the factors that most parents are not aware about because these things are not explicit. She said that parents need to consider what they want for their children to be in 30 years time, and reverse engineer their strategy to support their children reach that goal. It is important for the steps to start early because the first five years of a child’s life is at its most formative. What happens early on will impact what will happen to their family life 40 years from now.

The way a person was raised in early childhood will impact on how they will parent in the future. It is called the Inner Parent – gut response and emotion when something happens as a parent. How you parent your child during their formative years will also be their parenting style when they themselves become one. This is why parents must focus on what they want for their child, in order to work on it on the long haul.

To raise a child that can trust him/herself and his/her intuition, a parent must respect their child from the start and not try to box or conform them to what society dictates. Parenting is a long game and to develop a healthy relationship with your child, you must not try to change them. Build their confidence and uplift them by encouraging them to trust themselves.

Both Alexandra’s share their parenting experiences, which concluded in a realization that in parenthood and to be better parents, one still has to look from within and understand oneself.

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  • The way that you are parented in your early childhood, before your memories really begin have  a long term impact on them (your child) when you become a parent. Your inner parent is your gut response when something happens, your gut emotion when something happens, as a parent. The way that you’re driven to automatically respond is very in line to how you would respond when you were so young. – Alexandra Scherzer
  • Knowledge is extremely powerful. Once I understood the main goal that my son’s brain was trying to reach in the first 18 months, it made a lot of small decisions get smaller. Our framework is what we do with that one main thing, and everything else is secondary. When you have that type of focus, it’s just like with anything. All of the noise starts to settle down. – Alexandra Scherzer
  • To establish trust as a primary caregiver, is to understand your child’s inborn characteristics and what that means in terms of their behavior, because they are actually expressing emotions through their behavior. Understanding that piece of the pie is actually really valuable because what many parents start to feel as the beginnings of negative emotions within themselves because it’s frustrating. If you understand why your child is behaving in a certain way, and then you understand that responding to them in a way that they are expressing it. – Alexandra Scherzer
  • Parenting is such a long game, that if you hope to raise a child who can trust him or herself in the long run, who can trust him or her intuition in the long run, the best way to do that is to respect who they are from the very get go. If you truly respect who they are, and not try to conform to everything that society is sometimes pushing and pulling us to do, you truly respect your child for who they are, and not try to change them. – Alexandra Scherzer
  • Looking within can be very powerful in our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with everybody. Our children, family, parents, friends, colleagues, everybody. Starting within first applies to anybody in any circumstance. Whether they are a parent of a young child, not a parent at all, or just looking at who they are day-to-day, living through life in their own life’s journey, or interacting with the other adults in their life. – Alexandra Scherzer

Guest Bio

Alexandra Scherzer is a parenting educator and consultant at W.I.S.E. Parenting Academy. She focuses on parenting for secure attachment. Her passion for helping parents started when she herself became one and what she was experiencing was far from what she expected. As a mother experiencing new things, she had a lot of questions that traditional sources were not able to answer. She teaches parents like herself how to manage parenthood and raising children especially in their formative years of first 5-6 years, which will impact how the child will grow to be themselves in the long run. Alexandra conducts one-on-one sessions and pod/group sessions and works with parents and expecting parents alike.

Positive Influence Of Retreat vs Holiday

Retreats are meant to encourage healing and self-discovery by focusing your attention inwards, calming your senses and clearing your mind. A holiday does the opposite. It encourages you to open all your senses to experience the world and leaves your mind busy processing all you’ve seen.

Listen to me and Ulli discuss what it means to have a meaningful traveling experience. In this episode of Outer Travel, Inner Journey. We will discuss what’s the difference between holidays and retreats based on our personal experiences. And hopefully it will guide you in pursuing experiences that can enrich your inner self.

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  • “In retreats, I’m forced to sit for hours and hours without doing anything and have some spiritual talks and it goes so deep that even for weeks after I see the results and I see the positive influence it has in my life. Whereas holidays, it’s good, it’s wonderful to relax and don’t have to be in the daily chores. But on the other hand, also I’d like to do my job so sometimes I think do I really need holidays?” – Ulli Helmstetter
  • “Self-care retreats are time where you take time to go deep and use methods to be really clear with yourself.” – Alexandra Kreis

Sexuality – Ulli Helmstetter

In this episode of Outer Travel, Inner Journey, Ulli and I discuss what the challenges are in maintaining sexuality and intimacy in our relationship. As we unpack those challenges, we also share how we cope with those gaps and ensure that we still both feel whole in the relationship and our sexuality.

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  • “With menopause, I find that I have gaps in concentration. I’m losing touch with myself, but also losing the touch with you.” – Alexandra Kreis
  • “Intimacy requires investment, commitment, and time. It’s more of the commitment of allowing yourself to find time again for each other, nothing is more valuable than experiencing this human exchange.” – Alexandra Kreis

Hairdressing – Faye Blake

There are things that people do not usually talk about but are common and natural to us. Most of the time these are signals or signs from our bodies trying to communicate with us. In this episode of Outer Travel, Inner Journey, Faye Blake shares her journey of finding her inner self and how her personal experiences, including hairdressing, help her help other people in finding their inner selves.

As a herbalist hairdresser and Ayurvedic coach, Faye believes that the key to living a sustainable life is to listen to the signals that our bodies tell us and not wait for the extremes. She explains that this is her way even in hairdressing, wherein she lets hair take its form and express itself. She learned this the hard way when she started hairdressing in a more traditional hair salon wherein they were expected to conform to a certain mold and have a specific image. When she tried conforming, she felt drained and coped through unhealthy addictions like smoking and alcohol.

This is when Faye realized that people tend to not actively try and make a difference unless something extreme happened and forced them to do it. After quitting the salon, she found herself working with naturopathic nutritionists. Shortly afterward she understood that what she want to do is to empower people through listening to our body’s wisdom and intuitive nature.
Self-empowerment for her is living intuitively through listening to the elements and energies in our bodies and not looking for answers externally. It is trusting yourself and being to speak from a place within and trusting that your voice is valid.

People who work in hairdressing, like Faye, have a gift of connecting and listening to people and reflecting with them and making them feel good about themselves. They are also a reminder that we cannot do everything alone, on our own. They help us nurture ourselves by listening to what our bodies are telling us and loving the parts that we take for granted. By mirroring us, they teach us how to live intuitively and love ourselves more.

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  • “I want to sit at a hairdresser because it’s about me, my own self-care, and about somebody who wants to talk about my hair and treat it like a part of me that needs the love and affection.” – Alexandra Kreis
  • “When they [hairdressers] are puffing it up, it’s almost like asking your hair what it wants to do. I see this a lot in the body. Our emotional body and physical body is always talking. How do we a gain a conversation with it? It’s by going through this more intuitive way of living. With hairdressing it’s the same. What’s going on within there, what does it actually wanna do, how does it wanna express. It’s free expression, it’s us, it’s an extension of us and we’re not molding it and shaping it to fit in like we do to the rest of our body in life to be in a box or how it should look. It’s a real process of freedom and living in alignment of how naturally it wants to be, in alignment with nature.” – Faye Blake
  • “For women, we tend to put a lot of other people that we care about way before ourselves. From that place they can really burn out or really go to depletion and fatigue, and total disconnect from ourselves and our path and how we truly want to live.” – Faye Blake
  • “I believe Ayurveda does that with the elements and the energies and how you get to see them within your own body. That to me is your body’s intuitive nature, and your body’s wisdom talking, that’s your body’s voice.” – Faye Blake
  • “Intuitive is self-trust, self-trusting what comes within and being able to speak from that place and not just looking externally for answers. It’s a way of trusting self, trusting my own voice, and knowing that it’s valid.” – Faye Blake

Guest Bio

Faye Blake is a naturopathic nutritionist, yoga and meditation teacher, and Ayurvedic health coach. She helps create deeply sustainable self-energy, to help people make a difference in the world without depleting and spiraling around into self-sabotaging behaviors. She promotes living intuitively through listening to what our bodies tell us. Faye loves to surround herself with a community working on their inner selves and freeing themselves from their past to create a loving and purposeful life. She is also a herbalist hairdresser at Tame the Mane Salon in Bristol, a salon that offers alternative natural hair services and products. Faye encourages people to equally nourish both their minds and bodies in a sustainable way.

Tapping the Creative – Tesz Milan

Creativity is a soulful expression. A spiritual practice, even.

We’ve seen or heard it in visual arts, music, and songs, even in dance. For many centuries, people have used the creative to express spirituality, faith, and belief. It was actually through this that it was passed on to the succeeding generations.

When I encountered this episode’s guest, Tesz Milan, she had left singing for over a decade but she had just finally come into owning that she was creative.

To Tesz, being a creative director for other businesses is very much like a musical—you have a story that you’re telling as a singer and you’re creating that story for others. It was her way of connecting to all of what’s unseen. And she’s using her creative output as a way of drawing that energy and creating things for others to feel that for themselves in whatever shape that is in their lives.

In this podcast, we give light to the realities and practicalities of and around the artistic expression. Behind every awe-inspiring act, work, or sound is a whole being poured in in the process of its creation.

Tesz narrates how at the beginning, when she was starting off as a singer, difficult conversations about compensation and the struggle of finding a balance between that and cultivating the creative.

In places like finance or medicine or these more easily understood professions, we have a concept as a society of how we’re going to compensate for those services, whereas for artists, it’s so tough. So one has to know what they’re going into when venturing to art and the creative as a full-time commitment–it takes a lot of time, energy, perseverance, and courage to continue doing what artists do and not get paid right away.

And as an artist, especially with as quickly as digital has taken over our world in the way that we express and communicate our artistic and creative abilities, putting oneself out there to connect with others has been both challenging and exciting at the same time.

Catch this enlightening “insight from the inside” by Tesz Milan! Only here at the Outer Travel, Inner Journey podcast!

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  • Let me listen to your message. I bridge what you’re trying to communicate to your audience to who you are and what it is that they want and need in their lives. – Tesz Milan
  • Every time I’m being creative, it is a spiritual practice. It’s something that I do to feel connected to all of what’s unseen. And I’m using myself and using my creative output as a way of drawing that energy and creating things for others to feel that for themselves in whatever shape that is in their lives. – Tesz Milan
  • It’s so easy to have dreams and visions, but it’s very hard to bring them into this world and stimulate the subconscious. There’s always a sense that if I say my mantra often enough, I probably am going to get it. But it takes real action to get things down. – Tesz Milan
  • Music is a part of our spiritual makeup or our spiritual being. – Tesz Milan
  • The easiest way for me to feel discouraged is when I don’t feel like what I’m doing is actually reaching anybody. – Tesz Milan

Guest Bio

Tesz Milan, formerly a singer and performer, is a Creative Marketing Director and Copywriter. Her creativity helps businesses communicate their purpose and the value they bring to the world.

Elaine Butler – Changing and Loving Her Life Through Exploring Sustainability

Life Through Exploring Sustainability! In this episode of Outer Travel, Inner Journey, we look through the eyes of a prolific sustainable living activist, Elaine Butler. She maintains a website wherein she shares information about concepts related to sustainable living and what can people do if they want to start living in harmony with nature.

Her journey started when, as a young mother, she wanted to contribute to improving the world, to be part of something bigger than herself. She joined an environmental political party in Ireland and heavily lobbied for environmental policies for 4 years. She realized in the process that the more she researched, the less she knew, especially with the basic things about environmentalism and sustainability. She noticed that even simple things like the disposable coffee cups that she drinks from are neither recyclable nor biodegradable. From then on, she kept a record of everything she was learning and shared it through her blog.

For her, the last 6 years of living sustainably are not only about choosing differently, it’s living with a different set of priorities. She chooses to live opposite the traditional way of overconsumption, overindulgence, and convenience. In trying to avoid buying stuff, she opts to borrow, lend, repair items or get them second-hand. To do this she connects and operates with her community, interacting with people more than the traditional way of living.

Elaine underscores that taking action on climate catastrophe in every way possible should be encouraged. Instead of waiting for billionaires and large corporations and pointing fingers to act on it and be responsible, individuals can start somewhere simple which eventually, along with like-minded people, will make an impact. She emphasizes that everyone should take the first steps in protecting the planet, no matter how small that step may be.

Elaine lives in a way such that the planet’s health and resources will still be available for future generations to come. She said sustainability and climate chaos exposed how interconnected humanity and nature is. And being in harmony with nature is also reconnecting with ourselves and our communities.

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  • Sustainability is living in a manner that protects the planet and resources for future generations. Similar to the native American way of approaching things where they make decisions with the next 7 generations in mind. – Elaine Butler
  • We all have to do our bit. Rather than pointing a finger and saying “well, I’m not doing anything because that person’s not doing something”, I would rather do my bit and point finger at the other person and say “well, you need to try harder”. Whereas (if) we all just stand and watch the world burn pointing fingers at one another, does it really help us? Even if it’s not fair, it doesn’t help anybody to do that. – Elaine Butler
  • Overall, what we have to do in the overdeveloped world is to reduce our consumption levels. They are just, completely on whack, they are not sustainable. – Elaine Butler
  • I feel more connected to humanity. The challenge of sustainability and climate chaos is that we now are seeing how interconnected we are. – Elaine Butler
  • I am doing this because I believe it’s the right thing to do. I do think my life is so much richer and so much more rewarding doing this than it was previously where I struggled to know what my purpose was and I don’t feel that now. – Elaine Butler

Guest Bio

SustainabilityElaine Butler is a designer and environmentalist, managing her website Living Lightly Sustainably in Ireland since 2016. She shares in her website practical ways on how to live a sustainable lifestyle. She has appeared in various radio shows and contributed to a number of newspaper companies and websites. She gives talks and on sustainable and zero waste.

Harnessing Sexual Energy to Align One’s Self – Carole Piriou

What we do in our day-to-day lives circles around how society has shaped our thoughts, priorities, and where we should put our energy into. Women, in particular, are expected to be mothers, homemakers, wives, and breadwinners, without considering their genuine wants and deep desires.

In this episode, our guest will talk about how we can start living the fulfilled lives that we envision by being attuned to what our body needs and harnessing our sexual energy and power toward self-alignment and actualization.

Carole Piriou, the founder of The Wisdom of Desire, is a mother, a wife, and a life coach. She is a French mother of twin girls living with her husband and his twin sons in the Netherlands.

Women in a similar situation may be overwhelmed, having to manage a full household and a job. Society sets expectations on the role of women at home that acting on their creative endeavors and deepest desires are almost always put in the backseat. In the process, women lose themselves, the feeling of being alive and desired, which forces them to live draining and unfulfilling lives.

Carole supports women who want to overcome that kind of life by helping them release the pain and tension they have from within and reconnect with their passion. She shares that women should align themselves with their inner guidance – be in the moment and listen to their bodies, especially in their pelvic area. It may be deemed taboo to society, but women should not be ashamed of freeing themselves and harnessing their sexual powers and desires. Sexuality, sensuality, and wanting the feeling of being desired is not confined to a certain age, look, or body type. For her, fulfilling these wants will help the head and heart be aligned and let energy in the body flow more naturally.

Sex and sexuality are a part of self-empowerment. Carole works with women to heal from trauma and find their pleasure again. She helps women rewire and re-sensitize the nervous system, identify what is pleasurable for them and the amount of power they have in their bodies. In doing so, women can redirect and focus their energy on their specific goals and desires. Carole guides women in finding the balance between wanting to do something and acting on it. Not trying to conform to society and valuing oneself and passions will ultimately boost one’s confidence, creativity and revitalize their life.

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  • All of us are trying to find what really is our purpose and what really keeps us aligned, and there’s a lot of healing to be done on that part, first of all, questioning the expectation we put on ourselves, about what we should do and what we should achieve. Working with sexuality and sensuality is coming back to the very primal source of ecstasy and bliss, and rediscovering your body as a source of endless pleasure. – Carole Piriou
  • We come from a society that for centuries has been unsafe for women to tap into that (sexual) power. How do we repress that in ourselves? Body shame, body hatred, we take too long in bed, we have too much in our heads, we’re broken, orgasms are not for us, we give up on ourselves. We develop this numbness towards this part of ourselves because it’s painful to feel all of that. We internalize it as our own fault like we are broken. – Carole Piriou
  • As long as we have shame, fear, and guilt with a really important part of our body and our being, it mirrors in other areas of our life: how confident you are in your job, in being intimate with not only your partner or yourself, but with the world, with reality. The level of you being comfortable with reality is affected with how intimate you can be with yourself. – Carole Piriou
  • There is a balance between doing and being. And when they are in sync, it’s really beautiful to go and do things in the world and go make impact. – Carole Piriou
  • You are not broken, you have so much aliveness in you. We all have this inside of us, we all have this power, this confidence, this pleasure. It takes some work to release all of these, but it’s possible for everyone. And life on the other side is amazing. – Carole Piriou

Guest Bio

EnergyCarole Piriou is the founder of The Wisdom of Desire established in 2021. She works one on one with women to restore their desire, aliveness and creativity. Part of her work is to reconnect them with their sexual energy, pleasure, and orgasms. She goes to the root of the problem and creates more bliss for women. She studied sexuality coaching with Layla Martin for 6 years and also uses jade eggs in her coaching. She loves to learn continuously to gain mastery on her craft. She is French but has been living in the Netherlands for 15 years with her family.

Making The Best Out of Your Every Day With Vedic Astrology

For thousands of years, humankind has been looking at the cosmos as a guide to our daily lives, internal and external relationships. Ancient and modern, western or eastern, there are a plethora of systems on astrology that people subscribe to in order to understand themselves and the world around them. In this episode of Outer Travel, Inner Journey, we will look at Vedic Astrology and how embodying its principles can improve the way we see things and live our lives. Kathleen Whalen, the founder of Conscious Calendars, shares with us how she and her clients are guided by Vedic Astrology in their day-to-day experiences.

Kathleen starts by explaining that Vedic Astrology, which originated in India, is different from Western Astrology which is more recognizable and currently more popular in mainstream culture. It is the ancient understanding of the cosmos, rhythms of the sun and moon, and natural rhythms of people. These living tones give us indications on how to live a balanced life as an individual in a spiritual path and among people.

Kathleen recognizes that there are people who are adamant in believing in such systems, thinking that astrology will dictate or interfere with their lives and decision-making. For her, Vedic Astrology offers a different perspective on a situation that one is experiencing, still in a space where people can operate based on their personal choices. She elaborated that for example, the colors in the Vedic calendar can be implicit in ways that will teach individuals to look beyond and deeper than what’s on the surface to be able to truly appreciate their experiences. The practice of being aware, being present, and connecting with oneself is at the heart of being human.

There are days when the actions one may take have a greater impact in the future, so taking positive steps not only for oneself but for people around them is important as well. Kathleen says that in green days, the most positive of days, sometimes you are the ones giving answers, the ones giving help to somebody, by spreading kindness.

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  • It allows a perspective, and it’s not about imprinting anything. It’ to allow us more space in our day to almost shift our perspective and be able to have more resilience. And if a green day wasn’t the perfect day, it’s all the more reason to look back and say “where were the silver linings?” because there really are some secret gifts that came on the green days. – Kathleen Whalen
  • Present in being is a method of becoming more aware and more grateful and more in the moment. – Alexandra Kreis
  • The Golden Hour is the time of day when we can create ourselves and re-recreate ourselves. – Kathleen Whalen
  • The actions we take on a green day have a greater karmic fruit at some point in the future. – Kathleen Whalen
  • Most people who are disappointed are passive people. They are like “oh the green day wasn’t that perfect” and I’m like, what did you do on a green day? Did you spread kindness more? Were you someone else’s answer? We can receive answers on green days too. Sometimes we’re the ones giving someone else help.  – Kathleen Whalen

Guest Bio

AstrologyKathleen Whalen provides solutions and guides professionals and individuals working in stressful environments to improve their mental health and well-being by employing Vedic Astrology and Chinese Medicine. She has a background in allopathic medicine, lab research in immunity and neuroscience, and has degrees in Biochemistry and Chinese Medicine. She is the founder and creator of Conscious Calendars and has been serving the international community with its products since 2006. Through her work and consulting tools, she has helped thousands of individuals and companies see opportunities ahead of time to succeed. Kathleen is currently residing in the United States.