Steffo Shambo – Tantra Yoga for Men

Tantra is the practice of being in a full relationship with life, a living connection with what is opening yourself, your senses, awareness, and emotions to the present moment, and experiencing reality from that place of openness. It creates an active merging of body and spirit. 

 

Many people tend to associate Tantra with the awakening of the senses and connection. Sometimes, even with an unbridled lust for life and sexuality.

 

Some practitioners say that Tantric practices are more of a strategy that helps quiet the mind and soul and helps activate sexual energy in an individual. It helps instill a better sense of wellbeing and higher states of consciousness, igniting the overall mind, body, and soul of an individual.

 

In this podcast, Steffo Shambo, a men’s relationship coach, talks about tantra yoga for men. He is the founder of Tantric Academy. He helps empower men to realize and tap into their full masculine confidence, intimate power, and their ability to connect with themselves and their partners on a deeper level than ever before.

 

Men have challenges, too. Sometimes, it is even harder to navigate because of societal stereotypes. Historical roots of movements for women empowerment have gained momentum and advances and paved for general acceptance of personal development concepts. But it men, it’s another story.

 

Steffo, through his work in Tantric Academy, and in this episode, gives advice and tips for men on how to reflect within and be better partners in their relationships in a Tantric way.

 

He’s also in for some eye-opening conversation about men’s challenges and some ways to address that. Don’t miss this out on Outer Travel, Inner Journey!

Links mention in the podcast

Podcast Highlights

  • 4:26- 5:28 – Classical Tantra
  • 9:31-11:04 – Men and Women’s Awareness
  • 12:13-16:52 – Transformation
  • 20:23-21:57 – Dark Night of the Soul
  • 22:46-24:04 – Coaching Journey
  • 29:40 -31:27 – Transmissions
  • 32:55-34:27- Modernization
  • 37:14-38:48 – Gift of Words

Pocket Quotes

  • “Masculine and feminine can meet in a place of healing and equality. That’s really what the planet needs right now and what helps to bring the world to a better place.” – Steffo Shambo
  • “I had my own challenges, journey and suffering that helped me let go out in the world to seek answers and transform myself.” – Steffo Shambo
  • “My purpose is to help one man at a time to become integrated and whole again.” – Steffo Shambo
  • “For me what’s most important for my clients is not the format, it is the result and outcome.” -Steffo Shambo
  • “When we fix that micro relationship, we also fix the macro, on a global scale.” – Steffo Shambo

Guest Bio

Steffo Shambo is the founder of the Tantric Academy. He is a men’s relationship coach and hosts a mentorship program called the Tantric Man Experience, that has transformed hundreds of men’s marriages from all around the world. His specialty is helping men realize their full masculine confidence, sexual power, and depth of connection with their spouse.

Zoe Knights – Dancing With Life

Who doesn’t enjoy dancing? Even just as a way to release your excitement or thrill over some good news! 

Dancing is therapeutic in every sense—you can dance in a group, with a partner, or on your own. You do it in dance schools, social venues, community halls, and your own home (and in the shower, probably!) Dancing has become a popular way to be active and keep fit, that most fitness clubs now offer dance classes in their group exercise programs. You can dance both competitively and socially.

In this podcast, Zoe Knights and Alexandra Kreis talk about dancing. Zoë Knights is a singular artist and performer who has made a name for herself in the field of contemporary performance. Her creations are distinct for their unity of sound, movement, lighting, and design, inventions that produce transformative moments and mesmerizing synchronizations.

Zoe has been praised for her craft’s visual and acoustic coherence, and intensity, and inventiveness.

To Zoe, dance is expression. As well as a spiritual and inner journey just like yoga.

When you dance, you should not simply be going through a series of moves; you should be performing. Dance is another means of expression. It should convey a story or an emotion; it should make the audience feel something, communicate with them on another level. Many young dancers forget about this expression/communication and forget that their whole bodies, including their faces, must feel and convey their story or emotion to perform successfully. The story or emotion should be the starting point of your dance; the appropriate moves and style should be selected, and the music should reflect and compliment this motivation. You need to interpret the music and dance expressively.

Links mention in the podcast

Dancing

Podcast Highlights

  • 4:28 -5:49 –  What is Dance?
  • 7:24-9:37 – Expressing in Dance
  • 14:45-17:05 – Yoga and Dance
  • 19:25-20:55 – Meditation
  • 32:03-35:19 – Movement in our bodies

Pocket Quotes

  • “With dancing, I constantly like rediscovering what it is about that really needs to be expressed or really important to me.” – Zoe Knights
  • “With dance it’s mostly non-verbal, and the body is able to express things.” – Zoe Knights
  • “The origins of dance are really social and spiritual and are markers of events in life, social agreements or social understanding or expression and being thankful.”- Zoe Knights 
  • “Dance is already a spiritual practice.”- Alexandra Kreis
  • “If you move, you release all these blockages and you come to another space.” – Zoe Knights

Guest Bio

DancingZoë Knights is a singular artist and performer who has carved a unique niche in the field of contemporary performance from Australia. She works as a choreographer, dancer, vocalist and actor in many parts of the world. She currently lives and works in Berlin. She has received various prizes for both her choreographic and vocal work. Zoë also regularly teaches classes in contemporary dance, choreography and composition, and mentors/advises BA and MA level students.

How do you want to Come out of the Pandemic?

Ah, I can smell freedom already!

Freedom is what I’d like to call it. For someone who loves and lives by traveling, this sure is freedom! For months and months now, my entire body is aching to be out and about, observe life, laugh with people and be in places again.

My family, too, has been too excited! (Shout out to parents out there who have kids and teenagers who simply cannot and should not be contained in a ‘box’ that is our homes!)

But as I plan my next holiday, I realized something from somewhere deeper.

This—what I’m feeling—is not all about the excitement for the breath of fresh air, for the warmth of the sun shining on my face, for the campfire stories I’ve been hoping yet again to share with people. 

It’s so much more.

This opening up into a new normal is an opportunity to change gears and plans. Point is—no one is watching. Or more so, whenever there was a crisis or a new world, we have used this to liberate ourselves from our past self to move forward into a future self that is more along where we see ourselves now.

As I’ve said in my previous blog, this period is an expedition of discovering who I will be the day after tomorrow.

So ask, are you looking to be flushed out and just wait on the next travel plan? Or are you using this flush to recreate yourself?

This is your chance to start new. We always say that whether you are in a better place or not yesterday, tomorrow always presents an opportunity to be in a better place than where you are today.

That’s true, of course.

But this one that we have right here is a lot bigger: it only comes around once in a blue moon. Cause it’s not just you. It’s the whole world that’s starting anew.

So before you say, ‘yes, yes I want!’, ask: do you know what will come your way? What is pulling you back into your old behavior, role, place? Where do you stop believing in the new you? What is empowering you? What is holding you back?

I am curious are you afraid to run into challenges and what might they look like—let me know your answers in my survey below.

Personally, to trigger the NEW ME, I have been daily journaling on my next 10 goals (the sky is the limit) every day. The way it works is simple. Write down 10 goals (not so easy to come up with – think of financial, career, emotions, partnerships, health) and leave it be. Then turn the page and do it again the next day.

Also, I support this future self-thinking by meditating daily around the new exciting change (morning and evening). 

And as everything is still in slow gear take time to spend being idle—allowing myself to just get bored and step into an empty space and spaciousness.

But really, I want to see and understand what you are missing around recreating routines and habits that support your new goals. That way, we continue to be valuable travel partners in this new journey. The roads are opening. Where do we want to go?

healthy habits & empowering routines survey
healthy habits & empowering routines survey

Shawn Flot – Tangible Adjustment After Physical Trauma

Not being able to do the physical things that we used to do, especially those activities that we love and have become part of our identity can be heartbreaking. It can turn our world upside down. We’ve heard about athletes, dancers, who have been physically active their entire lives, made careers out of their passion for movement, but suddenly shift after getting injured or “physically worn out.”

This episode’s guest had a similar awakening—Shawn Flot, a triathlete and physical therapist, one day found himself in debilitating pain, his physical prowess crumbling irreversibly. But his struggle, with the guidance and support of communities working on mobility and movement like the Lowen Systems, yoga, and breathwork, brought him to a deeper understanding of trauma, physical and physiological dynamics, and ultimately, to help people now.

This insightful conversation reminds us that there can be so much going on beneath the surface simply because our bodies are designed to hold the pressure up to a certain threshold. Symptoms and pain don’t show up until the body can’t adapt anymore. And so, as we look after our wellbeing—which is not confined in the facets of the physical needs—we have to be aware of and master the other realms that help to support us.

Movement, hands-on work, breath work are some promising interventions that we can to support healing and recovering our optimum function. But at the end of the day, these are but reminders of the infinite gift of this world for us to live fully. Because we have somehow forgotten that we coexist for a reason: we belong to each other and are dependent on each other.

Bridging the healing arts of Yoga, physical therapy, and manual therapy, Shawn shares his wealth of experience and knowledge through his programs within Moving Into Harmony with a mission: to create space and options for people to take back their power over their bodies; to be back in the body.

Links mention in the podcast

Podcast Highlights

  • 03:34 – 09:27: Journey to discovering movement, forces, and harmony
  • 10:51 – 12:07: Understanding the Body and Pain
  • 16:05 – 21:15: ‘Hearing’ the body and creating space for options
  • 21:29 – 23:41: The Well-Explored Life: For those who are interested to actually be in their bodies.
  • 25:51 – 34:11: Breathwork: Constant expansion-contraction is the way of life.

Pocket Quotes

  • Symptoms, pain doesn’t show up until the body can’t adapt anymore. The facets of our wellbeing aren’t just physical, diet, etc… There are so many other realms that help to support us. We may look like we’re doing well, but something else may be under the surface. – Shawn Flot
  • The advantage of a hands-on setting: the patient feels being heard and the body knows it. People do feel the shifts. It is like giving back the person and their body options to heal. It’s up to them through movement, like yoga, to implement and integrate those new options. – Shawn Flot
  • We’ve been so self-made, individualized, but we forget that we belong to each other and are dependent on each other. It’s no harm if you can’t move correctly and someone else assists you. – Alexandra Kreis
  • Breath is so intimately close to wounding in traumatic events. Breath is divine, always available. Use the breath to reopen the aperture – that’s healing. – Shawn Flot
  • Don’t force yourself to strive to get rid of the trauma but be with it. This body has so much amazing love for you and potential. The more we can be with it, the more companionship will support us. – Shawn Flot

Guest Bio

Shawn M. Flot, PT, MPT is mobility and movement practitioner who bridges the healing arts of Yoga, Physical Therapy, and Manual Therapy in his Moving Into Harmony programs and solutions. He runs a clinic in Southern Oregon, USA, and also offers his programs through www.movingintoharmony.com

Wandering The Forgotten Path – Jolanda Todt

Traveling never ends, when you are wandering the forgotten path. It’s the curiosity and bewilderment that propels us forward, not the one thing that we want to solve. But as we go into our inner sanctuary, we realize there is nothing to resolve. It’s just all a play of life. After all, life is so hard to fit into a shoe.

This week’s guest – a fellow traveler – wandered to the forgotten spaces wanting to learn more about life and the life that exists beyond her experience.

Jolanda Todt, an artist, designer, cultural educator, went around getting away from and, eventually, wanting to reconnect to her memory of her father. Jolanda became a spiritual researcher, a truth-seeker in her own right.

Losing her father to suicide as a result of his long-running mental health situation, Jolanda realized how difficult situations in our lives make us reach out and reach deeper. And these experiences are what sailed her through life and brought her to immerse in the indigenous community and culture of shamans—something her father wouldn’t have thought she will do but she certainly has grown to love doing. She learned that psychological illnesses have complementary spiritual counterparts.

But the ceremonies in these communities forged a strong connection to Jolanda and her experiential understanding of life. The two women singing, praying, and chanting for hours left a strong impact on Jolanda. In her culture, women are fighting for their space and place. But in these indigenous cultures, women have such a beautiful space, expressing their spirituality, in such a very authentic way.

Being part of this community gave Jolanda invaluable nuggets of wisdom – the like that doesn’t resolve questions but moves you through the unending quest for learning. The like that she proudly brings in her journey from sorrow to understanding the life that her father had.

Links mention in the podcast     

Podcast Highlights

  • Difficult situations in our lives make us reach out and reach deeper at the best times. – Alexandra Kreis
  • Trauma can be passed on to generations. – Jolanda Todt
  •  In our culture, women are fighting for their space and place. But in this culture, these women have such a beautiful space; they are expressing their spirituality, in such a very authentic way. – Jolanda Todt
  •  The bigger the questions are, the bigger answers required. – Jolanda Todt
  • Life is so hard to fit into a shoe. Travelling never ends. It’s the curiosity and bewilderment that propels us forward, not the one thing that we want to solve. But as we go into the inner sanctuary, we realize there is really nothing to resolve. It’s just all a play of life. – Alexandra Kreis

Guest Bio

ForgottenJolanda Todt, an artist, designer, and cultural educator from Berlin. She studied communication design and has done exhibitions, performances, and lectures in Germany, Iceland, and London

My Voice, My Story – Regan O’Brien

Breathing is one of those instinctive things that we know and do. So instinctive that we seldom pay attention to how it supports everything else in our system. So constantly done that we almost neglect the dynamics that it plays to other aspects of our core such as our voice.

In this episode of Outer Travel, Inner Journey, Regan O’Brien, vocal coach and performing artist, and singer, inspires us to rediscover our breath and voice.

Growing up with an innate love for music, singing was that one thing that brings Regan to her element—but she does it alone. She even recalls being so shy she couldn’t speak and join in conversations. Her nerves would always get in the way because she didn’t look at singing as sharing her voice and story with other people. To the younger Regan, it was something she had to do to meet someone else’s expectations.

Until she discovered breath and voice work.

The thrive that she found among friends cheered her on to studying speech and drama. This opened her to a world of resources and support to build more strength and confidence in her ability. And there, she discovered her gem: realizing that finding her voice was a core experience of attuning to her sense of comfort and identity. And as she began to consolidate that identity, she felt more certain about the ‘I’ in all of her work.

Today, Regan partners with people on their journey towards connecting with their voice in a meaningful way. She works with people and the poetics of their voice—the preverbal movement of the voice and the body, sensing inward, feeling the actual physicality of producing voice within the body, and finding the path of least resistance to creating support for that vibration with breathwork and strengthening exercises.

Through her lived experience and example, Regan inspires people to step into the flow, rather than control it, and to immerse in the nervousness and rawness of the moment. With the right support, allowing ourselves to move with this flow while staying present in the movement is what gives depth to the breath and voice.

Voice work, vibrations, resonances—all of these, there’s movement in it that attunes us into our internal landscape. Sensing our voice vibrating in our body is such a practical and effective way of understanding ourselves. Our voice is our main vehicle of expression, not only of our thoughts. It ushers our emotions, our identity, the life within us to come out and come free.

Links mention in the podcast     

Voice
Voice

Podcast Highlights

  • As time went on, I began to realize that finding my voice was a core experience of attuning to my sense of comfort and identity. – Regan O’Brien
  • Your breathing is the rhythm of your life. – Regan O’Brien
  • Voice work is controlling and supporting the out-breath on a vibration. And there’s something very intimate about it because we are so attached to our sound. The embodied voice work is very important because it gives a sensory experience.  – Regan O’Brien
  • Healing doesn’t need to come through one path – you can do it through breath and voice work or deep diving. – Alexandra Kreis
  • Everyone is capable of expressing their own meaning and truth. We don’t have to rely on words to do that. There are so many other art forms and practices that allow us to do that. – Regan O’Brien

Guest Bio

Regan O’Brien is a musician, a vocal coach, and a creative facilitator. She performs her compositions throughout Ireland and Europe. She has lectured in performance studies and taught vocal and movement practices at school and post-graduate levels. She facilitates a creative and therapeutic voice coaching service called Vocal Movement Ireland.