Natasha Nandini – Grief is Unspent Love

Grief is a natural response to loss.

It can be overwhelming because suddenly, you have no one or nowhere to devote your affection to. What used to be positive energy flowing out of the emotions of love, the joy of being with a person dear to you, and just the presence of that person, have nowhere to go. Because suddenly, there’s a void, a black hole that doesn’t vanish. Suddenly, no receiver could potentially return the same energy we give.

The pain of grief can disrupt your physical health, your inner harmony, and your life.

In this podcast, our guest Natasha Nandini, who has been studying yoga, Indian classical dance, and Indian classical vocal as methods to cultivate the self, is back with us to continue our discovery of ourselves through our sound. 

She has taught both sound and yoga worldwide. But during this pandemic, Natasha lost someone she loved and here, she shares about grief and coping with the situation. 

Opening herself up after pain and healing is a gift of sharing.

In many cultures, grieving is facilitated by rituals for the bereaved person to connect with their lost loved one. These rituals help people to experience and manage challenging emotions, understand and accept their grief, and establish a connection to their memories of the lost person. 

But grieving during this pandemic has been enormously different and overwhelming. The losses are immense and yet the chance to absorb the moment is cut short, for many. Movement restrictions and health protocols meant some people have been unable to travel and to be with loved ones at the end of their lives, or to attend their funeral.

But then, a loss is a loss. There is no “normal” time period nor a proper way for someone to grieve.

Capture Natasha’s wisdom on grief, loss, and finding back that presence on this episode of Outer Travel, Inner Journey.

 

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Podcast Highlights

  • 10:41-14:01 – Singing Practice
  • 19:09-20:31 – Dark Hole
  • 21:10-24:16 – Losing Someone
  • 26:23 -27:18 – Grieving
  • 27:24-29:36 – Hindu Tradition and Rituals
  • 39:33 -40:33 – Feeling the pain and grieving
  • 40:52 -42:29 – Formula to Grieve
  • 57:2 -59:23 – Nobody knows when grieving is over

Pocket Quotes

  • “Mind is stable and everything is free.” – Natasha Nandini
  • “We have to say goodbye to certain things so that we can say hello to new things.” – Natasha Nandini
  • “If you lose something, it’s natural law for that to be replaced.” -Natasha Nandini
  • “You only ever focus on the beautiful things about that person and your memories.” – Natasha Nandini
  • “Nobody knows when grieving is over.” – Natasha Nandini

Guest Bio

Natasha Nandini has been studying yoga, Indian classical dance and Indian classical vocal as methods to cultivate the self. She is now living and teaching in London (and online) but she has been traveling to India for the last 20 years to deepen her studies and to host sacred tours. The tour is a window into the lives of the local people and their practices. Her yoga focuses on building strength and postural corrections by working through from the feet up.

 

Sabina Rademacher – Normalizing Conversations about Love and Sexuality

Sexuality and Love go hand in hand.

Love is the physical, emotional, sexual, intellectual, or social affection one person holds for another. Intimacy is achieved when we become close to someone else and are reassured that we are loved and accepted for who we are.

Children usually develop intimacy with parents and peers. As adults, we seek intimacy in close relationships with other adults, friends, family, and with a partner. Intimacy is a close relationship where mutual acceptance, nurturance, and trust are shared at some level.

In this podcast, Sabina Rademacher and Alexandra Kreis talk about love and intimacy.

Sabina Rademacher is a Love and Relationship Coach based in Germany. And here, she shares how passionate she was about her work and coaching other people. Her coaching focuses on all aspects of love, such as self-love, relationships, separation, and breakups.

Sabina loves to talk to young people and open their feelings about love and intimacy. She wants to raise awareness on the necessary conversations about sexuality between parents and their children. And to establish deep trust, openness, and vulnerability between parents and their offspring. Through this podcast, she also discusses feminism, masculinity, authentic feelings, and parents’ role to their children about what love and sexuality are or can be.

When you encourage conversations about feelings, friendships, and family relationships, it can help your child feel confident to talk about teenage relationships in general. If your child knows what respectful relationships look like in general, they can relate this directly to romantic relationships.

Conversations like this hope to make your child feel more comfortable sharing feelings with parents even as they start to get romantically interested in others. And there’s a lot more direction than this can go: treating other people kindly, breaking up kindly, and respecting other people’s boundaries.

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Sexuality

Podcast Highlights

  • 2:37-6:31-  Passion on work
  • 9:50-12:10- Love and intimacy
  • 15:06-19:41- Feminism and Intimacy
  • 21:19-24:59  – Authentic feeling
  • 29:02-31:22 – Feminism and  Masculinity
  • 31:27-35:41 – Intimacy among Young people
  • 35:51-39:45- Parents’ Role
  • 42:34-43:04 – Last words of about Love and Intimacy

Pocket Quotes

  • “We don’t make peace on this earth until we make peace among the gender.” – Sabina Rademacher 
  • Love is never a demand. Love is a gift; it’s a state of being, and it starts with myself. So if I don’t love myself, nobody can ever love me.” – Sabina Rademacher 
  • “Love and intimacy and sexuality is still such a taboo.” – Sabina Rademacher
  • “True feminism is a gentle power; it’s not copying the masculine.” – Sabina Rademacher 
  • “Step back into your child because that child will always guide you with authenticity.” –  Sabina Rademacher

Guest Bio


Sabina Rademacher is a Love and Relationship Coach. She speaks different languages such as German, English, Spanish, Catalan, French and Portuguese. A mother of two beautiful grown-ups and adopted an Indian child. She loves spending as much time as possible in nature, and with yoga and dancing.  Her coaching focuses on all aspects of love, such as self love, relationships, separation and break ups.

Jessica Sanders – Love Your Body

Helping create a world equal where we view everyone as equal is Jessica Sander’s central theme in life right now. Through her work, this fantastic young social worker and author of “Love Your Body” hopes to encourage people to be their best selves and to create safe spaces where everyone can feel valued, heard, and included.

In this podcast, we will hear about her motivations and her uplifting stories and ideas leading to this book and her work.

It all started from a conversation with her best friend about unnecessarily dangerous and expensive plastic and vaginal surgeries that we hear so much about nowadays. While even as she was grappling about her identity at that time, hearing women waste time and energy focusing on how they look urged Jess to do something.

Jessica shares writing the book is in itself a journey of self-discovery. She realized the book she was imagining didn’t exist at all. So she decided it will be out of the box with an uncompromising message. It will be the first children’s book that discusses stretch marks and cellulite–all kinds of female forms! While admittedly a white female is falling within “the norm”, she didn’t quite see the way she has growing up, which still made her want to see more representations. Jessica felt like she was an untapped energy source for such a book to come to life.

She also shares how she struggled to find balance in writing the book. Recognizing that we do live in a world that seems to value beauty amongst all else, Jessica explains how she didn’t want to set false expectations. Instead, she strived to make the book as compassionate and positive for people in such places of self-doubt but in a realistic way.

Jessica and Alexandra navigate an essential conversation in this podcast. Especially now that we can be so consumed with what we see on social media, and just like Jessica’s works, this conversation aims to lead diverse voices without being anything less than compassionate, open, and authentic.

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Podcast Highlights

  • My whole life, I was waiting for myself to be represented by a model or something like that. And when we do not see ourselves represented in the content that we consume, we think we’re not right, normal, desirable, important, and to be held on a pedestal. Then we are always striving to be something other than ourselves. I started sorting out the imagery and saw more and more women showing forms that I haven’t seen before in these content. I was inspired by their body positivity and I realized the true power of representation. – Jessica Sanders
  • I’m lucky enough to be fairly confident enough in my childhood, not with my body but in my ability to have an opinion and my voice. I challenged the negative thoughts with self-compassion and taught my self a different way. It doesn’t necessarily mean that it has completely gone away; it’s social conditioning and we have to do a lot of unlearning. – Jessica Sanders
  • Body Positivity, started by lesbian women, is a movement to acknowledge the body in its truth. It’s also combating fatphobia in our culture. People with bigger bodies are also discriminated, maybe not in a life-threatening way, but in all kinds of awful ways on a day-to-day basis. Shame could be potentially a very damaging thing for an individual. – Jessica Sanders
  • We can easily judge when we’re on the side of normal. It takes tremendous effort to wake up to what other people go through and it was difficult to bear to see all these people in pain and suffering. If I cannot be compassionate with myself, if I don’t understand where my moods, opinion, and own energy comes from and my courage that I want to build in this world, then I cannot bring that forward and towards other people. – Alexandra Kreis
  • I don’t want young girls to go through what I went through. It shouldn’t be like that it was their destiny. Because my experience is ‘the norm’. And it shouldn’t be ‘the normal.’ We have to start the conversation early. – Jessica Sanders

 

Guest Bio

Jessica Sanders is the young author behind Love Your Body. She is also a social worker from Melbourne who started with photography as her first passion. Ready to try anything new, she jumped right into researching and writing her first book and the upcoming ones from inspirations from her own childhood and her post-graduate studies which focused on Gender.

 

Love : Valentine’s Day Pain-Free

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Love should be celebrated everyday… not just on Valentine’s day.

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Some call this day a ‘Hallmark Day’. A day to increase adivertissement for  commercial goods  and make money on the foolish hearted.
When I was single, I struggled with ignoring the day. Even though for 364 days in the year I believed I was fine, February 14th always managed to hit me sideways.

Until…
I moved away and let my life untwist and untie. In this action of undoing, I found myself one sunny afternoon sitting in my favorite chair thinking: I have had enough. I want to merely respect and love myself and be the person that so many of my friends see in me. I want to feel, think, and be this person they already understand, but that I doubt I am.

After this intimate, perfect encounter with myself,  a 180 degree. The self-transformation began to unfold Seriously!
I was so fed up with myself and my bullshit, that when I surrendered that this came from my innermost being.
And I was rewarded.

Half a year later I stumbled across my current mentor Cate Stillman who penned a book on how to create a more holistic lifestyle by applying ayurvedic, yogic, and circadian rhythm routines.

At the time I was burnt out from massaging too much, teaching yoga all the time and not finding time for myself. All that what was in me was pouring out to others until eventually
I found myself trying to pour from an empty cup.

Meeting Cate was the second lifesaver for me. I started to take my own life more seriously. I began to pay attention to how  I slept, when I rested, how much I ate (or how little in my case), and started to initiate some real habit-changing triggers.

This was about three years ago.
Now I teach other people how to bring this self-respect, this  preservation of energy to their life.  I coach people to cultivate respect for  their own feelings, and reflect on whether their actions reflect what they really want   I have now managed to combine this with my yoga practice, teaching and running a business

If you want advice on how to start, I invite you to first ask yourself this :

  • What is it that I truly desire? Vs How am  I actually living these days?
  • Who’s getting my attention first? People around me or myself?
  • And although I am not a fan of letting other people determine how I think of myself – I would like to ask you: How do other people perceive you?

From there make a list, of your daily activities. And see where you have taken care of yourself so that that self-love can come into your life

I never thought of myself as someone who ‘wasn’t in love with myself’. That wasn’t how I was looking at myself even though people pointed it out to me in many ways. Denial was my second name.
If I had admitted that I didn’t love myself, I would have fallen apart. So I was trying to keep the love alive by asking other people to like me.

If you looking for a change and want to experience more self-love why don’t you sign for a free webinar this Sunday 17th February?

See you there?

Yours truly,

Alexandra

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