Jessica Sanders – Love Your Body

Helping create a world equal where we view everyone as equal is Jessica Sander’s central theme in life right now. Through her work, this fantastic young social worker and author of “Love Your Body” hopes to encourage people to be their best selves and to create safe spaces where everyone can feel valued, heard, and included.

In this podcast, we will hear about her motivations and her uplifting stories and ideas leading to this book and her work.

It all started from a conversation with her best friend about unnecessarily dangerous and expensive plastic and vaginal surgeries that we hear so much about nowadays. While even as she was grappling about her identity at that time, hearing women waste time and energy focusing on how they look urged Jess to do something.

Jessica shares writing the book is in itself a journey of self-discovery. She realized the book she was imagining didn’t exist at all. So she decided it will be out of the box with an uncompromising message. It will be the first children’s book that discusses stretch marks and cellulite–all kinds of female forms! While admittedly a white female is falling within “the norm”, she didn’t quite see the way she has growing up, which still made her want to see more representations. Jessica felt like she was an untapped energy source for such a book to come to life.

She also shares how she struggled to find balance in writing the book. Recognizing that we do live in a world that seems to value beauty amongst all else, Jessica explains how she didn’t want to set false expectations. Instead, she strived to make the book as compassionate and positive for people in such places of self-doubt but in a realistic way.

Jessica and Alexandra navigate an essential conversation in this podcast. Especially now that we can be so consumed with what we see on social media, and just like Jessica’s works, this conversation aims to lead diverse voices without being anything less than compassionate, open, and authentic.

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Podcast Highlights

  • My whole life, I was waiting for myself to be represented by a model or something like that. And when we do not see ourselves represented in the content that we consume, we think we’re not right, normal, desirable, important, and to be held on a pedestal. Then we are always striving to be something other than ourselves. I started sorting out the imagery and saw more and more women showing forms that I haven’t seen before in these content. I was inspired by their body positivity and I realized the true power of representation. – Jessica Sanders
  • I’m lucky enough to be fairly confident enough in my childhood, not with my body but in my ability to have an opinion and my voice. I challenged the negative thoughts with self-compassion and taught my self a different way. It doesn’t necessarily mean that it has completely gone away; it’s social conditioning and we have to do a lot of unlearning. – Jessica Sanders
  • Body Positivity, started by lesbian women, is a movement to acknowledge the body in its truth. It’s also combating fatphobia in our culture. People with bigger bodies are also discriminated, maybe not in a life-threatening way, but in all kinds of awful ways on a day-to-day basis. Shame could be potentially a very damaging thing for an individual. – Jessica Sanders
  • We can easily judge when we’re on the side of normal. It takes tremendous effort to wake up to what other people go through and it was difficult to bear to see all these people in pain and suffering. If I cannot be compassionate with myself, if I don’t understand where my moods, opinion, and own energy comes from and my courage that I want to build in this world, then I cannot bring that forward and towards other people. – Alexandra Kreis
  • I don’t want young girls to go through what I went through. It shouldn’t be like that it was their destiny. Because my experience is ‘the norm’. And it shouldn’t be ‘the normal.’ We have to start the conversation early. – Jessica Sanders


Guest Bio

Jessica Sanders is the young author behind Love Your Body. She is also a social worker from Melbourne who started with photography as her first passion. Ready to try anything new, she jumped right into researching and writing her first book and the upcoming ones from inspirations from her own childhood and her post-graduate studies which focused on Gender.


Love : Valentine’s Day Pain-Free


Love should be celebrated everyday… not just on Valentine’s day.


Some call this day a ‘Hallmark Day’. A day to increase adivertissement for  commercial goods  and make money on the foolish hearted.
When I was single, I struggled with ignoring the day. Even though for 364 days in the year I believed I was fine, February 14th always managed to hit me sideways.

I moved away and let my life untwist and untie. In this action of undoing, I found myself one sunny afternoon sitting in my favorite chair thinking: I have had enough. I want to merely respect and love myself and be the person that so many of my friends see in me. I want to feel, think, and be this person they already understand, but that I doubt I am.

After this intimate, perfect encounter with myself,  a 180 degree. The self-transformation began to unfold Seriously!
I was so fed up with myself and my bullshit, that when I surrendered that this came from my innermost being.
And I was rewarded.

Half a year later I stumbled across my current mentor Cate Stillman who penned a book on how to create a more holistic lifestyle by applying ayurvedic, yogic, and circadian rhythm routines.

At the time I was burnt out from massaging too much, teaching yoga all the time and not finding time for myself. All that what was in me was pouring out to others until eventually
I found myself trying to pour from an empty cup.

Meeting Cate was the second lifesaver for me. I started to take my own life more seriously. I began to pay attention to how  I slept, when I rested, how much I ate (or how little in my case), and started to initiate some real habit-changing triggers.

This was about three years ago.
Now I teach other people how to bring this self-respect, this  preservation of energy to their life.  I coach people to cultivate respect for  their own feelings, and reflect on whether their actions reflect what they really want   I have now managed to combine this with my yoga practice, teaching and running a business

If you want advice on how to start, I invite you to first ask yourself this :

  • What is it that I truly desire? Vs How am  I actually living these days?
  • Who’s getting my attention first? People around me or myself?
  • And although I am not a fan of letting other people determine how I think of myself – I would like to ask you: How do other people perceive you?

From there make a list, of your daily activities. And see where you have taken care of yourself so that that self-love can come into your life

I never thought of myself as someone who ‘wasn’t in love with myself’. That wasn’t how I was looking at myself even though people pointed it out to me in many ways. Denial was my second name.
If I had admitted that I didn’t love myself, I would have fallen apart. So I was trying to keep the love alive by asking other people to like me.

If you looking for a change and want to experience more self-love why don’t you sign for a free webinar this Sunday 17th February?

See you there?

Yours truly,